Damn!!! I Didn’t Want You To Be The Parent of My Child!

It has been a while world but I have returned to give y’all a little of that craziness I think about on the daily. As I get older I realize a lot of friends, family, and associates around my age are getting married and starting families. Wow! what a blessing! black love has really shown up and shown out. The princess has found her prince charming and prince charming brought a homeboy for the princess’ friend too. And they all having precious little rug rats. It is really seeming as though it is happily ever after. Well  at least I thought it has been happily ever after. Instead I’ve really been hearing a lot about child support, custody, and why he/she ain’t excrement, but I am sure they do not put it as nice as I do.

I do not have kids but I am sure when I do my entire world and thought process will change. I will have an entire life depending on me to provide, protect, and prepare to be the best person he or she can be in this world. That is why I cannot fathom why any  man would put his tail between his legs and take flight when he gets that late text talking about “boo I’m late ” text. Say bruh you should have used a latex. If you don’t understand the simplicity of the male and female sex organs and what they produce when used together I really don’t think you should be procreating. Please abstain if you are really that simple. It is basic to me if you give her a child and make her a mother, you raise your child and be a father. I know you claim she’s a strag, stretcha, bussa, but you had intercourse with her and got her preggo, Mr. strag, Mr. stretcha, and Mr.bussa. Just be present not absent when you’re called on to accept your role.

Single mothers I know  have a difficult job raising their child and/or children. However, the same responsibility the man should have taken during intercourse goes for you too. Yes he should have slipped on the rain coat, but you didn’t pull out your umbrella either. How do you lay down and get impregnated by a guy you claim to be ain’t “feces” and then get upset when he is not buying pampers, paying for day care, or even showing the little one any type of love. He showed you he was not the man of your standards when he hit you with those old tired lines “what’s your name? what’s your size?” or “What’s your sign?”. You let him  up in there  and now y’all are both stuck out. You for nine months physically and a lifetime after, and him for 18 years financially because you have to put him on child support, as well as a lifetime if he decides to stick around.

Now I know sometimes things just don’t work out and after the two minutes of passion, a missed period, and a few days of morning sickness its obvious that jr is on his way. Between 11:58pm-12:00am things JUST GOT SERIOUS. But in all seriousness once it all settles and the man is doing what he is supposed to do as a father, why put him on child support? Am I wrong? If the man is trying to be  father why go out of your way to create baby mama drama. It seems like you are using your child as an ATM but all you are doing is hurting the child. If the father of your child isn’t taking care of his seed by all means put him on that ‘port, but if he is what you claim “ain’t fecal matter” what is putting him on child support going to do? If he didn’t have money when you were with him and you were carrying him, you putting him on child support will give you the same return you would get if you keep putting your money in a shredder. And the last time I checked shredded money does not spend.

Be careful, pick the mother and father of your children carefully. If you’re a man with a child or children just do your best to be the best father you can be to them. If you’re a mom, most definitely a single mom, no matter how trifling the father of your child/children is don’t bad mouth him. Your child will already see it. They don’t need to hear the bitterness from you, they just need to see the loving, caring, nurturing mom you are.

Somebody please help me understand our child support system because what is happening to brothers like Nas is crazy. Please feel free to discuss your opinions on the whole child support issue I am curious to know y’all thoughts.

 

Is It Time For Sex Yet?

What’s goodie my people. I hope everything is peachy keen for all of you all. Today I want to throw a few spices on your mental palettes if  I may for a second or two. Hopefully when I’m done you’ll be burning to say a lot on the topic at hand, well maybe not burning that sounds so STD’ ish. But let’s just say it should spark a lot of debate amongst you and your friends. Well enough with the general eds, I obviously had a random thought or encounter this week so I will divulge a bit with you folks.

Last week I happened to hear the end of a radio segment question which was “How long should men  wait  for sex in a relationship? or how long should women wait before they have sex in a relationship ?” Why they opened that can of ignorance I surely do not know, but since its opened let’s just take a look inside. It’s clear to me that everyone has a different idea or philosophy on this, but I’m sure that the majority of us have standards, at least I hope y’all do. Don’t try to jump my bones yet lil mama you dont  even know my last name yet, and hell I didn’t even get your Fico score your credit might be shot.

There’s been a lot of people who give dates on when the panties should be dropped, or when the D should be delivered. I have heard the 3month rule, 1 month rule, hell I think I recall a few individuals taking a 2week rule into the bedroom. It honestly depends on the person, but I think there is a lot more pressure on women to make that decision a lot quicker than their male counterparts.

Most guys realistically want to do a jump n jack flash into the sack. But what does that really accomplish with a woman? We definitely know that women are sticklers for their emotional ties so why create instability with a dose of confusion. A lot of women will claim that they’re able to have a sexual relationship with a man without catching emotional attachment but let’s be honest thats far from the truth.

Men want instant gratification when it comes to pleasure amongst other things as well. But let it be known men understand the science of the man/woman relationship. Men want that woman that treats her body like a precious gem, even though they fail to show it on an outward level. There is a lot of times when men and woman try to play the sex card as though its an equalizer for both genders. Hell we all know that smell, yep straight bull shit, get a good whiff of it. Women can not do the same as men when it comes to sex.

However, I do believe that they should be able to be sexually free, but the masses would never agree with that idea. Women have all the power when it comes to sex, whether they want to believe it or not. Men can only do what they are allowed to do. So if women feel that they want to wait 24 hours or until marriage they posses that control. You never hear a man talking with his guys “so when you gone give her a sample?” That sounds RE-TAR-DED, If I heard a group a guys talking like that I will definitely be getting my 100yard dash on and ladies I would advise y’all to proceed with caution, It’s  a Clear and Present Danger, I’m telling you,them brothers are on that DL, y’all know… that don’t ask don’t tell bull shit.. ya better watch out.

Women have the power and control in the sex department. Whenever they decide they want to take that step that’s when it will go that direction. I honestly don’t think there is a standard time of how long a man should wait or how long a woman should wait before she gives up her body. Hence, its her damn body lol. If  a guy isn’t willing to wait, he can move on to the next one. There’s no need  Ms.lady for you to get upset, actually you should be happy because he wasn’t any good from jump street.

Just something I’ve been marinating on, feel free to drop a line or two

THINK TANK Signing OFF…………..

I Like Women Because…Part 2

What’s really good this Friday afternoon? I hope your lunch hour was whole -heartedly  filling. I know mine will be as soon I give the readers what they need. Well enough about the literal food, I want to bite into the food of thought on the menu for the day. Yesterday I wrote about the “main reason” guys like women. I want to expand on the subject a little more, especially after getting some great feedback from my main man Duane. Now that I explored a superficial reason why most guys like women, what is it that guys search for in a woman? What men are searching for in a woman is the true essence of their attraction to them.

It is my honest belief that men look for the woman of their dreams. I am sure you all are thinking that ’s so cliche’, that’s like a woman asking for her “prince charming”. The fact of the matter is that men deep down are looking for a woman who encompasses the greatness they’ve viewed in the dominant women in their own lives. We want to know that this woman does or does not have the qualities of the first lady we ever loved. I personally would love to have a woman that mirrored my mother’s greatness, but also was the antithesis of her weaknesses. That  connection definitely goes a long way in how a man perceives the woman in question.

The power of friendship is one of the strongest bonds believe it or not. A strong friendship, not some unaccountable friendship where the feeling of ackwardness looms, but a friendship that is built from a strong foundation can draw a man into a passionate relationship. If a man can open up to a woman, share emotions, and form a tie that goes beyond the sexual desires I am confident that the man would gravitate towards her. He would feel so connected both physically and emotionally it would show why he truly liked this woman.

Intelligence is another aspect that draws a man to become fond of a woman. A lot of individuals  would disagree and say that a man just looks at what a woman has to offer physically. That is by far as shallow as it comes. However, men do tend to stray towards the bronze and overlook the brains. I think that is primarily a short term pit stop. Honestly what man wants to spend the rest of his life with a pretty box of rocks? I know i sure don’t. The need for a man to meet his intellectual match or even his intellectual superior is his goal. That quality alone increases a man’s interest in a woman.

The need for a man when it comes to being attracted to a woman does start with the physical. However, there is more to it than what is seen on the surface. Men do search for a woman that can become that woman of his dreams, best friend, and his intellectual stimulant. It’s  not just the  curves but  they do lead a man towards his true feelings and reasons of why he’s attracted to a woman. 

Talk to you all next week…SHOUT OUT!!! to Duane for the major assist for this Part II

I like women because….

Hey people! how’s the sun shining on you? If it’s raining better luck tomorrow with the weather. Today ladies and gentlemen I want to bring you all the serious topic I mentioned in the last post. I want to get a clear understanding about a question a friend of mine asked me that I’ve never  pondered nor thought I had to at any point in time. The question that was asked to me was “Why do guys like girls?” Let’s dissect this question with all gloves off. Can we do that for a moment?

When this questioned spilled out of her mouth I was ready to rip apart a question I truly thought was boneheaded at best. I mean we all know why guys like girls and vice versa, but do we really dig deeper than the surface? I’m sure it wasn’t that deep for the inquirer but hey who knows. The first thought that bolted across my mind was I like girls because I am sexually attracted to them and want their companionship. It may seem barbaric and utterly blunt, but I’m only being honest. I’ve never viewed a beautiful woman and said “Damn! her brain is breath taking” or “she has a gorgeous heart”. I literally cant see those things on her when I’m checking her out, but everything I initially notice is more along the lines of a sexual encounter. I’m only being real.

So as I proceed to let this statement run out of my mouth like a leaky faucet, I was cut off by the inevitable. “That’s all its about? your sexual attraction?” The fact was I had no energy to lie and the honest tongue had control over my mouthy prowess. All I could say was ”hell yeah, when I see a chick majority of the time I am thinking I am or am not sexually attracted to her. However, there are certain times when I appraoch a lady and say something casually nice or think something that genuinely leads nowhere towards sex.

It all boils down in my eyes to sexual attraction. That is the main reason guys like girls, but of course its not the only reason. We do yearn for a woman’s touch, conversation, friendship/companionship, and understanding. In contrast, the prelude or foundation to the latter is sexual connection or compatibility a man feels towards that woman. Nothing more nothing less. I hate to say it, and know many of you ladies will be thinking that damn dog, he ain’t shit. But I’m just telling the honest truth on how most logical men  think, and the initial response to “why do guys like girls?” We just love what the women offer the love below, but we grow with their love above….

THINK TANK..I hope I made you all think today…talk to you next week….

Why is vh1 still givin out reality shows?

Hey people I hope your day is goin well so far, and that its a start to a beautiful weekend. Lately I have been told that I have been coming down hard on Hollywood, you know stickn it to the celebrities in a major way. Well i simply cannot and will not apologize. I just have to be honest. If I don’t, who will? So next up, is Ray J, y’all used to know him as “Brandy’s “brother, until the infamous sex tape of course.

It was coincidentally brought to my attention that Ray J has a reality show on VH1. Yeah I know y’all like mmmhmm coincidentally?? But really a good friend of mine has put me on the reality shows, which by the way are a lot more entertaining than I thought. But who in the hell decided to let this C list at best celebrity  have a show, like they do know that’s Ray J right???

Now let me explain to you all the purpose of the show. Ray J is looking for love, invites/selects girls to stay in his “house”  to win him over, and they compete, and i do mean these lil skip skaps compete. Now before yall ladies get bent outta shape for me calling them skip skaps, let me explain the things they do for “love”. Now this stripper chick goes for the gusto, you know the whooole bell grande, for y’all who speak Taco Bell. Now she got real nasty, well as nasty as you can get on prime time TV. She lathers herself in chocolate and vanilla ice cream, then supplants nuts all over her body, gyrates into a split, all while seductively eating a banana. Yes she became a human BANANA SPLIT.

I know ladies just tasteless , I cant believe she would do a shamockery like this, y’all know I had to turn the channel on that scantly clad trash….as soon as it went to commercial lol.. No really, is it me or is it all of these shows have the same plot, hoodlicious bottom feeder chicks who make it bad for all the true ladies out there, goin after some C list celebrity trying to revive their career. Girl don’t you know they using you, hummm,[sings] “lil girl gone somewhere out there  stranded”.

Somebody has to tell Ray J his time has passed. I mean yo name Ray J, what grown man walks around letting people call him Ray J? The entire episode all i could think was, he has joined the “Lets Bring Down the Entire Black Race Movement”, because this shit here is literally diarrhea, you know the kind that gives you the bubble guts and gets to runnin, then you gotta take a shower?…yeah that show is as ignant as that last comment.

Now I know y’all thinking you goin tooo hard on the celebs. Well I am and will continue to proceed with said remarks. I just have to do this, anytime you do things that land you on Stupidity Ave and Definitely Retarded Boulevard, that puts you right on Front Street, can the chuuch say AMEN! So imma keep talkn…beeledat lol

See y’all next week…THINK TANK signing off

The proof of stoopid men and crazee women

Im baaaaaaaaack!!! like Jordan wearin the 45, then back to 23. You know I rarely ever drop 2 in a day but I just have to give a piece of my mind on this issue. We’ve all heard of this supposed domestic battery issue with Chris Brown and an unidentified woman, who everyone is assuming is Rihanna. You know these male celebrities been finding ways to fuck over $100+k, while I really need $100+k. (Michael Phelps, T.I., Vick)

Let me just dive up in this head first, may i folks? Well I know the fans are heartbroken that Mr. Dance Fever himself, would use his talented limbs to go Ike upside Rihanna head. But we must not and shall not convict this man before we’ve heard his side of the story. There could be valuable evidence that has yet to be founded, so lets not jump to conclusions.

I for one am not put in the same category, I am convicting him, he wrong, GUILTY, GUILTY, GUILTY…put his hands on that fine woman, lil dancin summama..lol naw but really who knows what really went down. Lets informate before we speculate my brothas and sistas of entertainment gossip. Which I must say we all need to be in somebody’s class, staff meeting, or at our desk doin work, thats why the economy all jacked up lol, however, we want IN on the mess lol, as my Dillard University family would say..good times.

Now let me defend Chris Brown’s situation, and let me disclaim before y’all women get all crazy, and add me to the dumb box of rocks men which include some of the most idiotic fellows I might add. I do not condone males hitting women, yes males, because when you hit a woman you’re no longer a man. On the other hand, women just because men morally shouldn’t put their hands on you, doesn’t mean you should place your hands on him, or walk that thinly tight line, you know the line that looks just like Whitney Houston’s waist when she was on that shit, u know what shit im talkin bout too.

Women have a knack for doing some crazy things that provoke men into committing some of the dumbest acts, like beating the taste out y’all mouth.  e.g,”for example” for the intellectually challenged, woman tells man after they’ve been intimate for said amount of time without protection of course (stupidity at its best), “baby i got that germ” and no not the common cold germ, you know that DEAFF,  that’s AIDS or herpes. Or any other STD for that concern. That would drive a man to drop that size 12 off up in that ass.

Chris probably was just chillin at the crib gettin ready for the Grammy’s, when all of a sudden Rihanna wanted to him to wear or do something her way, he refused she called him a “BITCH” which is the ultimate no no to call a black man, he tries to brush it off, but she counters with a ” that’s why I’m lettin Bobby Valentino Beep, Beep, Beep, Beep, Beep” and then thirty minutes later when she regains consciousness she all mad and want to call the law.

I know its never right to put your hands on a woman, but sometimes women can really get beside themselves and think they got beat a man ass, then once they cross that line of no return they have all the power because their mistake also becomes their protection. Men lose all respect and rights because they gettin locked up. Just so wrong, women know what they be doing with them traps, men just so dumb when it comes to handling women.

With that said let the facts come to light about Chris Brown and his Ike Turner episode. I will be the first to say it since I did crack jokes before I heard all facts. The woman is not always the victim in a domestic battery, all she has to say are these 3 MAGIC words “HE HIT ME” think about it. So take y’all asses back to class, work, or place of productivity and stop gossipin with yall messy asses.

THINK TANK  signin off…talk to yall soon

A 5 SENSES KINDA GUY

Today I sat at work listening to morning radio for the third time this week since like high school. I must say it is quite entertaining. This morning they were discussing what the major difference is in men and women, and how they approach the opposite sex. Men are sensory and women want detail that’s what i obtained from the talk. But they really forced me to think about this topic, Men just want a woman that looks, smells, and taste well.

The more i think about my relationship with women, the comment made that men are sensory sets in. I really don’t care about what a woman thinks about economically or her stance on foreign diplomacy right off the bat. All i care about is her physique, her appearance, and her tantalizing smell. I know it sounds really shallow but 95% of men think like me… the other 5% are clearly doo-doo chasers..lol…eeewww..lol. But really from the beginning of time men of valor to the common man has always been drawn by the appearance of a woman. A guy is just a impulse shopper, while the woman is the name brand product, how she markets herself is key. If she has the total package, commercial, display, and a catch. The guy is buying. Max out his credit card or account he will do whatever in his power to obtain that woman.

You see women think like women when it comes to getting their guy. That is primarily why more than half the female population in America is single. Men don’t care about how a woman speaks to her father, how she organizes her agenda, or how she reads the daily paper. All we see is 36-26-36…coke bottle shape with a face to match. All the other details are minute for the moment. The beginning for a man begins with looks,smell, touch, hear, and taste. We use the 5 senses when approaching our mates as men. Women however, like to determine through personality, looks, thoughts, and other minor details. What can i say for a woman to really understand a man or why she’s single, just throw your thought process out the window when it comes to finding a man.

THINK TANK coming back real soon…

Dayum Baby girl!…aw it was just the clothes lol

Hey blog world, I hope your morning is as snow filled as mine. Naw I’m just kidding, well at least a little. You know for the past two weeks Ive been pondering this subject and maybe you guys can help me with this. Ok so lately Ive been just on a female prowl, and not just on some grimy ish, but on some real just chill stuff. But I have really noticed that wardrobe can really uplift a woman’s looks.

I know you all are thinking, this materialistic bastard. But really, just stop and think about it for a quick second. You’re out and about being social with the team, and from a distance you see lil mama and she got her dress on body looks decent (from a far) shoe game proper..u know the whole grown woman skit. Oh but when you get closer you peep the false advertisement. She is not as fine as her wardrobe told you she was. But the way she dressed just made her jump to a 6.5 to lets say 7.25.

The more i try to disregard this notion, it becomes to reappear time after time. Just the other day I was heading home from work on the train, when I spotted a lil shawty pea coat, fitted jeans, and those boots, u know the ones fellas that make u wanna take her straight home throw her on the bed get after it and say baby leave the boots on..lol..But back to said story. As I got closer i realized the chick was decent at most, but the way she dressed herself made her look and appear to be way more appealing. Im not trying to say that if a chick is just foo she can throw on a mean outfit and she just becomes God’s gift to men, however I am saying if lil lady is on the cusp, if she dresses nice it adds extra credit points to her final total.

Ladies im not sure if you all agree from your perspective. Or you might feel the same about guys. Feel free to drop a line.

Straight from the THINK TANK…coming back at you soon…….

Chicks Make Me Laugh Sometimes

Well in the midst of watching and enjoying election coverage at my boy’s girl’s house, if that even makes sense, her girl’s incited a conversation that i  never really entertained before. Well let’s just say that it was a cross between them and my boy’s thoughts on a particular subject. Yep you all guessed it the typical men and  women sexual connection topic.

It all started with the women in the living room stating that its gonna be every black man’s fantasy to have a Michelle Obama. Hell at that moment my fantasy was to have a couple of the friends, just bending them over and delivering a special delivery…damn! the thoughts in my head. But yeah they figured that all black men would want that strong black woman for their sexual pleasure, but that turned into somehow their thoughts of men having an inner homosexual drive. When i heard this irrational bull shit all i could do was laugh instinctally at it.

These chicks believed that men really had an urge to have homosexual relations because men aren’t comfortable expressing their emotions, and complementing other men on their looks. WTF?…what basis for an argument is that, just because chicks go around tellin other chicks that their gorgeous, sexy, and any other adjective that makes me want to powerdrive a lil miss kitty kat..lol. doesnt mean i want to go around telling another man hey those abs look fabulous…what? you have gotta be kidding me, just trying to rationalize a woman’s thoughts is impossible.

One key argument they had was that men have an idea of two women, strippers, and other erotic fantasies as cool. My boy brought up a good point, which i was totally thinking about when they asked us if we would like a threesome with 2 girls. My boy is like “i used to think that was the shit, but then i thought i don’t want another chick massaging my back while im gettin in some pretty good strokes”. Then i thought hell if the two chicks start going at it, hell im left out with my dick in my hand like i gotta dick, need a dick, want a dick…lol..but for real im not tryin 2 share a piece of moon pie when i can enjoy the sweetness it has to offer.

Their point was that men had some insecurity to hide, which was wanting to be with another man because they dont express emotion, thats stupid and the premise unfounded in my book. Then they said you know once you’ve had so much cooch, thats their words actually, cooch..lol..wow..but yeah once you have had so much cooch they all look the same then guys want to try other guys…hellllll to the naw!!!!…i dont know about other guys but hell once ive tried one type of woman i want to have yellow brown, white, pistachio women hell fat, thick, skinny, tall, short, dwarfs…there are waaaaay too many combinations of vaginal satisfaction in my eyes.

Well that was a random blur of a blog straight from the THINK TANK