Damn!!! I Didn’t Want You To Be The Parent of My Child!

It has been a while world but I have returned to give y’all a little of that craziness I think about on the daily. As I get older I realize a lot of friends, family, and associates around my age are getting married and starting families. Wow! what a blessing! black love has really shown up and shown out. The princess has found her prince charming and prince charming brought a homeboy for the princess’ friend too. And they all having precious little rug rats. It is really seeming as though it is happily ever after. Well  at least I thought it has been happily ever after. Instead I’ve really been hearing a lot about child support, custody, and why he/she ain’t excrement, but I am sure they do not put it as nice as I do.

I do not have kids but I am sure when I do my entire world and thought process will change. I will have an entire life depending on me to provide, protect, and prepare to be the best person he or she can be in this world. That is why I cannot fathom why any  man would put his tail between his legs and take flight when he gets that late text talking about “boo I’m late ” text. Say bruh you should have used a latex. If you don’t understand the simplicity of the male and female sex organs and what they produce when used together I really don’t think you should be procreating. Please abstain if you are really that simple. It is basic to me if you give her a child and make her a mother, you raise your child and be a father. I know you claim she’s a strag, stretcha, bussa, but you had intercourse with her and got her preggo, Mr. strag, Mr. stretcha, and Mr.bussa. Just be present not absent when you’re called on to accept your role.

Single mothers I know  have a difficult job raising their child and/or children. However, the same responsibility the man should have taken during intercourse goes for you too. Yes he should have slipped on the rain coat, but you didn’t pull out your umbrella either. How do you lay down and get impregnated by a guy you claim to be ain’t “feces” and then get upset when he is not buying pampers, paying for day care, or even showing the little one any type of love. He showed you he was not the man of your standards when he hit you with those old tired lines “what’s your name? what’s your size?” or “What’s your sign?”. You let him  up in there  and now y’all are both stuck out. You for nine months physically and a lifetime after, and him for 18 years financially because you have to put him on child support, as well as a lifetime if he decides to stick around.

Now I know sometimes things just don’t work out and after the two minutes of passion, a missed period, and a few days of morning sickness its obvious that jr is on his way. Between 11:58pm-12:00am things JUST GOT SERIOUS. But in all seriousness once it all settles and the man is doing what he is supposed to do as a father, why put him on child support? Am I wrong? If the man is trying to be  father why go out of your way to create baby mama drama. It seems like you are using your child as an ATM but all you are doing is hurting the child. If the father of your child isn’t taking care of his seed by all means put him on that ‘port, but if he is what you claim “ain’t fecal matter” what is putting him on child support going to do? If he didn’t have money when you were with him and you were carrying him, you putting him on child support will give you the same return you would get if you keep putting your money in a shredder. And the last time I checked shredded money does not spend.

Be careful, pick the mother and father of your children carefully. If you’re a man with a child or children just do your best to be the best father you can be to them. If you’re a mom, most definitely a single mom, no matter how trifling the father of your child/children is don’t bad mouth him. Your child will already see it. They don’t need to hear the bitterness from you, they just need to see the loving, caring, nurturing mom you are.

Somebody please help me understand our child support system because what is happening to brothers like Nas is crazy. Please feel free to discuss your opinions on the whole child support issue I am curious to know y’all thoughts.

 

Don’t Blame Him She Called You A Female Dog…

What’s going on world? I pray that all is well with everyone. It’s been so much going on lately I don’t know where to begin. I guess I can start with the conversation I over heard two of my female students having last week. I couldn’t believe my ears but nothing surprises me with these 90′s babies. It’s just pure comedy that comes out of their mouth some time and someone needs to let them know most of the stuff is just  pure ignorance.

Let me inform you all of the infamous conversation that was being held by these young girls. Girl A: “Oooh bitch let me see that rock on your hand, who got you that?” Girl B: “Bitch this my promise ring my baby daddy got me” Girl A: “He doing right by you girl, I’m still waiting on my promise ring.”……Whoa! whoa! whoa! Bitch?? Promise ring??? girl what the hell is he promising you? Hmm.. Let me guess?  lies and deceit. And why are y’all calling each other female dogs?

Hey maybe someone can explain this to me in some shape, form, or fashion. Is  bitch a word for women  as nigga is for black people?  I just don’t understand  why women use that term, then turn into she devil the minute a dude uses the word on them. Now it has gotten to the point where our young girls are using the word as if it’s a vocab word in their English class.

I know I’m not the only person that has heard a woman say to another woman “Hey bitch!!” If they don’t  have a problem with the word I hope they don’t think guys are going to bite their tongue when using the term around them. Now younger girls are being trained to be ok with calling and responding to the word bitch like they have four legs, fur and tail. So now our young girls are believing the lies and bull from guys and belittling themselves around guys by calling themselves a female dog.

Let’s do better…Think Tank signing off…..

Why Can’t She Be “International”?

Hey world! It’s always a blessing to write another post and I hope that my writing in return is a blessing for you all. The last couple of weeks I have been caught up in deep thought about doing a little experimenting with “International” women. Now that the thought process has pretty much been completed, does anyone know where I could go in the windy city to find one?. No, but seriously ever since I have mentioned this I have caught a lot of flack from every black woman I know. My question is why?

Why is it that as a young black man when I mention dating “International” women black women jump off the deep end like some loony toon character. I don’t see anything wrong with trying new things. I’ve never been one to stay stagnant in anything. It just seemed to me that I wasnt being open enough with the ethnicity of women I date. How can I honestly say I have lived, or for that matter find my soul’s counterpart in another if I just limit myself to one ethnic group of women? It was like the moment I let this idea come out of my head and into the public, black women pounced on it like free relaxer. They grew furious trying to figure out what they didn’t have that an “International” woman did. The majority of  black women I knew who responded to me got defensive, and tried to treat me with the same respect of an Ike Turner.

I just want to clear up a few minor things. Just because I say “International” doesn’t mean that you should automatically think I want to date someone outside my race/ethnic group. I know that there are women of my ethnic background who aren’t American. I wonder what that do, you feel me. However, “International” does include other ethnic groups as well. I am interested in what they have to offer as well. I just think at no time should I have to be permanently linked to just American black women. I should be able to do so without taking flack from black women just I am not doing the status quo.

I think black women should stop taking the interracial dating thing so personal. It seems as though it’s some sort of taboo to date or have a relationship with someone non-black if you’re black. I am tired of people doing the same things that they’re parents did because they’re parents did it, or doing entering the same repetitive relationships because that’s all they know or are comfortable with. There’s nothing wrong with trying new things and stepping outside that box of “normality”. I don’t think happiness has a color nor do I think it’s a slap in the face to date outside your own race the way society does. What’s wrong with a brotha going “International” with his women, because staying ”stateside” isn’t the only way you can live. Whose to say, you just may like one more than the other.

I love black women so don’t go bananas, but I don’t discriminate and neither should YOU!!!….

Until next time………….

I bet she don’t pick up the tab

Hey world! I hope all has been well. I’m sure you all have missed me but you know life happens. Also, as life has happened I’m positive that you all know that I have been observing a lot of things going on around me, especially about men and women. That brings me to today’s topic at hand. Men, women, and money. Some times these three are like salt and vinegar chips and an intimate conversation. It’s just not going to mix.

Let me give you the background info on what lead me down this road. I happened to tune into the “People’s Court” and either leading into commercials or returning after commercial breaks there is a guy who asks the outside audience questions. The case at hand was about a woman who wanted her money back that she spent on her then significant other because she felt it was the man’s duty to finance the dates. The women in the outside audience came to the conclusion that men HAVE to pay for outings, whereas women shouldn’t have to pay. Also, they felt that women should be reimbursed when they do. If that’s not retardation at its best, I don’t know what is. As much money as men have spent on those women they have dated.There are some women who have just been like low income elementary students all their life, yep  straight free lunch meal cards through life.

Now we all have different values that were given to us through out our childhood and adolescent years. However, there is certain ideas that are so dumb that it makes ignorant look appealing . I don’t care how long you stare at a pile of shit, at the end of the day its still a pile of shit. I do agree that men have been given the torch for providing from society and from a biblical stance. But honestly if I feel like im always spending money and the woman is getting over like a hype on the 1st we’re going to have serious issues.

Why is it that when men constantly take the responsibility for financing an outing for a couple; it’s just understood that he’s supposed to do so with no questions asked. When the subject of paying comes up around a woman it turns into damn near brain surgery. The fact that on this show I watched a woman actually ask to be reimbursed because she felt she didnt have to pay. I hear a lot of women say they’re independent and they’re tired of double standards. Well hell if that’s the case ladies we can start going tab for tab. It seems like there is a lot of fence straddling going on with women and this subject.

I’ve heard many women call men cheap because they weren’t enthusiastic about paying. Well hell if that’s the case many men can call these same women cheap because I know they ass probably would’ve stayed home if they had to pay for the dinner or the event. I’m just being real, almost every woman is claiming double standards need to be removed and that they should be allowed to do everything a man does. Well ladies you are more than welcome to tear down these double standards and become equal with men. Just pick up the tab on the next date with your man or the man you’re out on a date with.

Talk to You all next time…

Is It Time For Sex Yet?

What’s goodie my people. I hope everything is peachy keen for all of you all. Today I want to throw a few spices on your mental palettes if  I may for a second or two. Hopefully when I’m done you’ll be burning to say a lot on the topic at hand, well maybe not burning that sounds so STD’ ish. But let’s just say it should spark a lot of debate amongst you and your friends. Well enough with the general eds, I obviously had a random thought or encounter this week so I will divulge a bit with you folks.

Last week I happened to hear the end of a radio segment question which was “How long should men  wait  for sex in a relationship? or how long should women wait before they have sex in a relationship ?” Why they opened that can of ignorance I surely do not know, but since its opened let’s just take a look inside. It’s clear to me that everyone has a different idea or philosophy on this, but I’m sure that the majority of us have standards, at least I hope y’all do. Don’t try to jump my bones yet lil mama you dont  even know my last name yet, and hell I didn’t even get your Fico score your credit might be shot.

There’s been a lot of people who give dates on when the panties should be dropped, or when the D should be delivered. I have heard the 3month rule, 1 month rule, hell I think I recall a few individuals taking a 2week rule into the bedroom. It honestly depends on the person, but I think there is a lot more pressure on women to make that decision a lot quicker than their male counterparts.

Most guys realistically want to do a jump n jack flash into the sack. But what does that really accomplish with a woman? We definitely know that women are sticklers for their emotional ties so why create instability with a dose of confusion. A lot of women will claim that they’re able to have a sexual relationship with a man without catching emotional attachment but let’s be honest thats far from the truth.

Men want instant gratification when it comes to pleasure amongst other things as well. But let it be known men understand the science of the man/woman relationship. Men want that woman that treats her body like a precious gem, even though they fail to show it on an outward level. There is a lot of times when men and woman try to play the sex card as though its an equalizer for both genders. Hell we all know that smell, yep straight bull shit, get a good whiff of it. Women can not do the same as men when it comes to sex.

However, I do believe that they should be able to be sexually free, but the masses would never agree with that idea. Women have all the power when it comes to sex, whether they want to believe it or not. Men can only do what they are allowed to do. So if women feel that they want to wait 24 hours or until marriage they posses that control. You never hear a man talking with his guys “so when you gone give her a sample?” That sounds RE-TAR-DED, If I heard a group a guys talking like that I will definitely be getting my 100yard dash on and ladies I would advise y’all to proceed with caution, It’s  a Clear and Present Danger, I’m telling you,them brothers are on that DL, y’all know… that don’t ask don’t tell bull shit.. ya better watch out.

Women have the power and control in the sex department. Whenever they decide they want to take that step that’s when it will go that direction. I honestly don’t think there is a standard time of how long a man should wait or how long a woman should wait before she gives up her body. Hence, its her damn body lol. If  a guy isn’t willing to wait, he can move on to the next one. There’s no need  Ms.lady for you to get upset, actually you should be happy because he wasn’t any good from jump street.

Just something I’ve been marinating on, feel free to drop a line or two

THINK TANK Signing OFF…………..

WHY WOULD I SIGN UP FOR THAT?

What’s good family?!?! I know that all is well for everyone, I’ll just claim that.  There has definitely been some neglect on my behalf but I’m back to give y’all what is needed to quench your mental thirst. The last time I spoke to y’all we touched on Chivalry and how It was pretty much on life support, so i wanted to piggy back off that and put a little spin to it. Basically I had a few conversations since then that jerked me a little bit. These conversations were pretty much based on men being the sole provider for their families and a couple of women’s perspective on the husband’s role in a union.Yeah I’m bringing the heat like two slaves in August , in New Orleans fighting over Cayenne Pepper  pops in a mini cooper with no A/C with the windows rolled up. I know you all are thinking Youngcels you aren’t even married, but you all should know me by now, I will not cut off my nose to spite my face. If I hear something and have something to say about it the gums will be bumping like Jackie Chan in the trunk.

I had a long conversation with a close friend of mine who happens to be a woman and she dropped a bomb on me that just blew up in my face. She believed that when she got married her husbands’ salary would be used in its entirety to support the entire house. For those who need laments terms, the brotha’ will have to pay all the bills and just slave to the job. Thus, by the husband paying all creditors, her funds would be used to shop and buy things for her self -gratification. Her perspective was ass backwards to me, what type of marriage is that? come on married folks out there divulge please….

But at any rate family y’all know I came at her head, I mean honestly what Disneyland fairytale does she think she’s living in? Prince Charming ain’t quite make it to this time period. However, she proceeds to tell me that it’s not fairytale and that her husband will have a high paying  career. Hold on babe, TV timeout, aaaannnnddd CUT!!!. I know you trying to claim it in existence  in all, but I don’t care if your husband is a neurosurgeon. The more money you make the more expensive the lifestyle you want to lead and no one person’s salary is going to support that lifestyle. Now there are of course exceptions to the rules with professional athletes, celebrities, and successful businessmen. But we’re not including them right now.

So this whole time I’m trying to understand her supportive arguments. She comes up with the typical woman answer. “Well the man is supposed to take care of everything, that’s why he’s called the man of the house”. Ohhh really now?  I do believe the man does whatever to make sure family is taken care of. But I thought marriage meant help mate .I don’t think marriage was built for one person to carry the entire load. Maybe I skipped that verse in the Bible, y’all saved folk know the good word I’m talking about, enlighten me.

I pushed this same conversation on another female friend to see how she would answer and she gave me the same illogical answer. “Well if you call yourself a man in a marriage you’re supposed to pay all the BIG bills.  I will pay some small bills like the cable.” Girl, you do know cable ain’t a necessity right? Oh ok  because I ‘m just making sure. I mean seriously what man is going to sign up to take these type of hits? I see now why high percentages of women are eternally single. It’s not that they can’t get a husband, men just aren’t volunteering to be the only person in the pressure seat. Every woman wants that double standard to go away when its for their benefit but hide behind it when the spotlight of accountability is shining on them.

Men don’t think this means you don’t have to do whatever is necessary to make sure your family has what they need to survive. But women that doesn’t mean just because you have a husband you sit idly and let him get beat down by life’s financial gauntlet because you’ve been taught that’s the man’s job. Aww no babe it’s a union, which means we are one body with two interchangeable parts. Maybe I’m just thinking wrong. Let me know something.

THINK TANK Signing off………..

To Text or To Call? That is the Question

What’s the good word my people? I hope the day is moving swiftly for those stuck at the office, and gracefully smooth for those on vacation. You know everyday someone asks how are things going? and usually my response is I can’t complain. I mean for the most part I can’t, but there are things that people do consistently that force me to complain every time they commit these acts. Usually acts of ignorance, or some sort of WTH? action that just makes me lose my sanity for all of 15 seconds.

Today that 15 second blunder is the improper use of  the cell phone. Have you guys ever noticed that people text when they should call and call when they should most definitely text. Really just think about how many times the people who possess your number use up your text messages when they clearly should be using up your quality minutes to at least tell you quote on quote emergency information.

You know randomly family  or  friends will text me stuff  like “did you see that move Kobe just made”. That’s the perfect text, however, when cousin RayRay gets hit by a car and is rushed to the emergency room I want a phone call, don’t text me that information 2 days later. It seems like the wires of when to text or call have really gotten crossed in some form or fashion.

Usually when people call you there’s a reason to their calling, a focal point to be made. Now it seems like the phone call has no point but to tell me a random thought that could’ve been text and the text message has vital information that should be transmitted from vocal chords to an ear drum. I am just being honest. Don’t waste my unlimited minutes telling me something that I could read in 5 seconds and that’s all you had to tell me. But don’t burn up my unlimited text telling me stuff that definitely warrant a precise phone call. The next thing you know future employees will send you out a text saying “hey Bill you got the job” or a future institution of higher learning will send you an admittance letter  (or Denial letter, y’all know everyone can’t get in) via text.

It should get to a point where people should know when and where to send a text or place a phone call. It just says a lot to me when a person sends me a text saying happy birthday. Umm yeah if you have enough time to type Happy Birthday  you can mustard up just enough strength to dial my number to say the same thing. And if you don’t agree you’re probably one of those individuals who don’t know exactly when to text or call. So everyone let’s take a deep breath and think before we place that text or call.

The Summer P.Y.T’S

What’s the business my people? I sure hope the summer is treating you all well thus far. If you have any sense you would be out and about enjoying the good weather. That means ladies- sorry to come off as sexist but hey its the summer- put on your mini skirts, halter and tube tops, and tight jeans. The summer would only be right if the temperature is perfect and the women are gorgeous. The icing on the cake for the summer is definitely the P.Y.T’s, yeah you know Pretty Young Toes.

The summer months is the prime season for the showing of the feet for women. I don’t have a foot fetish, but a woman truly must have good looking feet. Especially when the sandals are put on and the summer attire is in full swing.  A woman with hideous feet can truly bring her overall look down. I am serious all jokes aside ladies preserving the sexy includes caring for the feet. With this being said let me bring up a few rules of feet showing etiquette if I may. let’s start with the main component, which is care of the feet.

Ladies before you begin letting the P.Y.T’s out for display make sure the care is done with precision. At no point in time and I am adamant with this NO POINT IN TIME, will you be allowed to literally half step with your feet game. First and foremost make sure the foot is fully lubricated, ashyness is definitely not classiness.  Your feet definitely  should not look like you been kicking flower all day, it’s just not a good look. So make sure you get the Jergens or Cocoa Butter out and make sure them toes are looking full of life, not gray, dry, and close to death.

Smoothness is definitely  key in making sure the toes are ready for there close up. I mean come on ladies its prime time the feet can really make or break your look I am just looking out you feel me. Now ladies it matters not the age the toes  and feet must be smooth. I know you’re wondering …what you should do if your feet look rough like Sealy’s from “The Color Purple”?, You  guessed it, start over from scratch, and not literally your feet has enough chalkiness to them. I am going to need you to go back into the bathroom soak and lotion up the feet. Keep it smooth.

Presentation is always key when stepping out for the summer months. When getting your summer sandal game up ladies make sure the shoe is the right fit. I am tired of seeing the too big look and ya “dogs” are looking like “puppies” in those too big chancletas. Also, small is never good when it comes to the sandals ladies. It makes your feet look like it’s trying to hold on to the edge of the sandal for dear life. Another look that doesn’t quite present the P.Y.T’s in such a good way.

So ladies the summer is coming into full effect. Please be cautious  of how your feet look when displaying them on the grand stage we all know as summer. Just please make sure that the toes are in tip top  shape before you let them out. And the last tip before I let you go and set the P.Y.T’s free, don’t forget about the heel of the foot when stepping out, we wouldn’t want you or anyone else using it to strike matches. Y’all be good take care of the feet, and enjoy what the summer brings.

THINK TANK Signing Off until next time…..

Is That Your Ringtone?

What’s good America? I hope the day is treating you all well and that your plans for the memorial day weekend are all coming together. If  they aren’t I think you need to get on the phone and hit your contacts and see what’s on deck for the long weekend. Speaking of phones, has anyone witnessed the outrageous usage of cell phone ring tones lately?

This day and age everyone has a cell phone, it has become a true lifeline of sorts for us as a people. However, cell phone etiquette hasn’t quite matured. If you’re out of college (my reference point for everything socially incorrect) there is no reason why in the middle of dead silence your phone should scream the latest song. I personally don’t want to hear your favorite Soulja Boy song while I’m out. Sorry, if you really need to kiss someone do just that, lets not do it through the phone with the weakest and loudest of songs.

Now I have the pleasure of taking public transportation to work. Oh how much I adore the rides and public calamity. Everyday I get on the train and there has yet to be one ride where I haven’t come into contact with someone on their phone. Why do people use their ring tones as an Ipod? Clearly that is cellphone and you’re disturbing my serenity. Or better yet I was on the train yesterday, in the morning mind you, and this woman receives a call. Ring tone begins to play Gucci Mane, of all artist: “I’m a Dog, I’m a Dog, I’m a Dog, I’m a Dog”. Does she answer it expeditiously? No, for one she sure as hell doesn’t know what an expe’ anything is, but she sure let the entire train no what a Dog she is.

And people please, pretty please, halle berry fine please, stop having personal conversations in public places. I shouldn’t have to hear your phone “turnin its swagg oooooonnnnn!!!” and then find out that contracted some sexually transmitted infection from your baby daddy’s cousin, who you think might be the father of your third child and you about to whoop the chick who lives next door to you  because you’re NOT the ONE (2 snaps and a neck roll from Liquorishonda).

If we could all help each other out by passing on the proper cell phone etiquette public places would run a lot smoother. But hell who wants that when all that ignorance brings me entertainment and stories to tell all of you.

THINK TANK signing off until next time…….

Ladies Does Your Profanity Turn Off?

Well Good morning to you people. I know it has been a while but I just can’t sit around entertaining you all. There is plenty of work that must be done and if its not the powers that be will be cussin’ up a storm.

Speaking of cussin, is it me or is there a lot more chicks who talk like sailors? There is no problem expressing yourself in my mind, but I cannot enjoy the company of a woman who’s vocabulary is 90% bitch this and motherfucker that. It’s just down right tasteless like macaroni without cheese. Certain things just shouldn’t be done.

I am sure all the women are thinking how dare he put up this double standard? Men use profanity and obscenities all the time. This is true, but the image of a woman is so much more important to me. When I converse with a lady I immerse myself in her beauty and conversation. But that could come to a drastic end if the first couple words are four words long. I’m not saying a lady should only recite scripture and sweet words of kindness. All that I am saying is don’t be in a dead heat profanity race with my intoxicated uncle when you’re clearly sober. Just doesn’t look good.

Standards mean a lot to a man when he views a woman. I know that sounds hard to believe, but its so true. If you’re a chick thinking… that some bull manure, you’re probably the young lady who needs some antibacterial soap for that dumpster you call a mouth. Yep! i said dumpster, and it’s probably as nasty as swine flu. Which means you damn sure couldn’t couldn’t kiss me with that trash chute. Sometimes I just wish some of these chicks had an on/off button for their profanity.

If you’re a woman making new variations and combinations of profane language you really need help.  Your vocabulary should extend past the word for a female dog. There is nothing wrong with using a little profanity every now and again, but women please help yourselves out. Ladies, the more you sound like a sailor , the more you look like a trollop. And a TROLLOP is definitely not a complement. And if you don’t know what Trollop means feel free to look it up. See how I inform ya’ll.

So with that said ladies keep it as PG as you can, when you can. Don’t let me have to hear that one of y’all have made the Guinness book of world records for most profane words in one sitting. You would lose all fine or cute points, and if you not cute you will descend into the negative integers.

Well THINK TANK checkin out…be back real soon…