Hey world! It’s always a blessing to write another post and I hope that my writing in return is a blessing for you all. The last couple of weeks I have been caught up in deep thought about doing a little experimenting with “International” women. Now that the thought process has pretty much been completed, does anyone know where I could go in the windy city to find one?. No, but seriously ever since I have mentioned this I have caught a lot of flack from every black woman I know. My question is why?
Why is it that as a young black man when I mention dating “International” women black women jump off the deep end like some loony toon character. I don’t see anything wrong with trying new things. I’ve never been one to stay stagnant in anything. It just seemed to me that I wasnt being open enough with the ethnicity of women I date. How can I honestly say I have lived, or for that matter find my soul’s counterpart in another if I just limit myself to one ethnic group of women? It was like the moment I let this idea come out of my head and into the public, black women pounced on it like free relaxer. They grew furious trying to figure out what they didn’t have that an “International” woman did. The majority of black women I knew who responded to me got defensive, and tried to treat me with the same respect of an Ike Turner.
I just want to clear up a few minor things. Just because I say “International” doesn’t mean that you should automatically think I want to date someone outside my race/ethnic group. I know that there are women of my ethnic background who aren’t American. I wonder what that do, you feel me. However, “International” does include other ethnic groups as well. I am interested in what they have to offer as well. I just think at no time should I have to be permanently linked to just American black women. I should be able to do so without taking flack from black women just I am not doing the status quo.
I think black women should stop taking the interracial dating thing so personal. It seems as though it’s some sort of taboo to date or have a relationship with someone non-black if you’re black. I am tired of people doing the same things that they’re parents did because they’re parents did it, or doing entering the same repetitive relationships because that’s all they know or are comfortable with. There’s nothing wrong with trying new things and stepping outside that box of “normality”. I don’t think happiness has a color nor do I think it’s a slap in the face to date outside your own race the way society does. What’s wrong with a brotha going “International” with his women, because staying ”stateside” isn’t the only way you can live. Whose to say, you just may like one more than the other.
I love black women so don’t go bananas, but I don’t discriminate and neither should YOU!!!…. 
Until next time………….
Hi Young Cel, Love the humor in your post and why shouldn’t people be able to date internationally? Variety is the spice of life.
btw – I found you via a search for “Dating” on WordPress. If you’re interested, I’ve started a site for real-time updates from your dates, http://www.LuvvBugg.com. I built it cause all my friends were telling me these crazy stories from their dates, so I thought it would be cool to capture the moment and also allow their friends to comment, provide advice or a joke in real-time. Given your post, I thought you might want to check it out. Give it a shot.
Cheers,
Scott
I like this post..your entitled to enjoy your “cup of tea”. Whatever you like is shouldn’t matter to anyone else.
I’ve never been the type to become angry when I see a Black man with someone of a different race/nationality. However, I do have a problem with the “value added” concept. Let me explain, some people think that dating outside your race means that you have “moved up” or adds value to the fact that they can pull a white woman/man, Hispanic man/woman etc…That’s a whack idea, I don’t have a problem with people having preference, but the idea that a person is better than those of your own race (because of skin color) beckons self-hatred/ignorance and thus ticks me off. Not that you need my approval, but I don’t have a problem with it…One less black woman giving you the stink eye becuase you’ve gone “international”…Love is love, Mo power!
Ship, always do what makes you happy. Aside from GOD, you’re the master of your own destiny and experiencing different kinds of relationships is a part of maturing.Forget about what other people say, and live YOUR life! You’re one of the most responsible brothers I know, so I’m sure the girl you choose will be a great catch.
I think choice is an awesome thing! however, I think that most Black women get angry or irritated by men who chooses the “other” kind of woman once he has arrived. its very difficult to find a straight, college-educated, God-fearing, nice, Black man as it is. and when a Black man arrives or on his way to “arrival,” some Black women feel spit on that a Black man would choose someone other than a Black women to share his glory with. it may not be true, but most Black men, who are also famous and/or wealthy, have non-Black women by their side.
I think choice is an awesome thing! however, I think that most Black women get angry or irritated by men who choose the “other” kind of woman once he has arrived. its very difficult to find a straight, college-educated, God-fearing, nice, respectful, Black man as it is. and when a Black man arrives or on his way to “arrival,” some Black women feel spit on that a Black man would choose someone other than a Black women to share his glory with. it may not be true, but it appears in the media that most Black men, who are also famous and/or wealthy, have non-Black women by their side.
I see nothing wrong with “dating outside the box” we are always taught to think outside box why not? Being a black women, I used to get upset when I saw a black man with a women of another race. As I got older and more understanding I became more open. I think as black women we are afraid to date outside our race so we don’t want our men to either. I recently “befriending” a man of hispanic backgroud and it’s quite refreshing to learn something new. The old saying is “you can’t help who you love” You can fight all you want, but it’s you who lives with the decision and that person. I hope your “International” journey is refreshing.
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c/o 06