Hey world! I hope all has been well. I’m sure you all have missed me but you know life happens. Also, as life has happened I’m positive that you all know that I have been observing a lot of things going on around me, especially about men and women. That brings me to today’s topic at hand. Men, women, and money. Some times these three are like salt and vinegar chips and an intimate conversation. It’s just not going to mix.
Let me give you the background info on what lead me down this road. I happened to tune into the “People’s Court” and either leading into commercials or returning after commercial breaks there is a guy who asks the outside audience questions. The case at hand was about a woman who wanted her money back that she spent on her then significant other because she felt it was the man’s duty to finance the dates. The women in the outside audience came to the conclusion that men HAVE to pay for outings, whereas women shouldn’t have to pay. Also, they felt that women should be reimbursed when they do. If that’s not retardation at its best, I don’t know what is. As much money as men have spent on those women they have dated.There are some women who have just been like low income elementary students all their life, yep straight free lunch meal cards through life.
Now we all have different values that were given to us through out our childhood and adolescent years. However, there is certain ideas that are so dumb that it makes ignorant look appealing . I don’t care how long you stare at a pile of shit, at the end of the day its still a pile of shit. I do agree that men have been given the torch for providing from society and from a biblical stance. But honestly if I feel like im always spending money and the woman is getting over like a hype on the 1st we’re going to have serious issues.
Why is it that when men constantly take the responsibility for financing an outing for a couple; it’s just understood that he’s supposed to do so with no questions asked. When the subject of paying comes up around a woman it turns into damn near brain surgery. The fact that on this show I watched a woman actually ask to be reimbursed because she felt she didnt have to pay. I hear a lot of women say they’re independent and they’re tired of double standards. Well hell if that’s the case ladies we can start going tab for tab. It seems like there is a lot of fence straddling going on with women and this subject.
I’ve heard many women call men cheap because they weren’t enthusiastic about paying. Well hell if that’s the case many men can call these same women cheap because I know they ass probably would’ve stayed home if they had to pay for the dinner or the event. I’m just being real, almost every woman is claiming double standards need to be removed and that they should be allowed to do everything a man does. Well ladies you are more than welcome to tear down these double standards and become equal with men. Just pick up the tab on the next date with your man or the man you’re out on a date with.
Talk to You all next time…
Well, i’d say that if women did start picking up the tab then men can’t really expect sex after the date. I know it sounds crazy, but that’s usually the exchange depending on which side of the fence you’re from. Men pay, but then expect something in return. So if women begin picking up tabs, guys will be going home to hand babies instead. No, just kidding* but I do think occasionally it is ok for a woman to foot the bill but it should never be the standard. A few times i’ve pulled out my purse at dinner to see what the reaction would be, and most times the guy acts insulted as if i’d commited some major offense, like i’m saying they’re broke, or less than gentlemen. I’m just saying I don’t want to see the day that women start pulling out men’s chairs and buying them roses for dates…Call me crazy
Good points Toy. I am definitely not looking for the day that women switch roles with men. I am just saying I would like for some women to be a bit more appreciative and even offer from time to time. If you offer to pay with me i am still going to pay I just like to know that you would. It tells me a lot about a woman if she does or does not offer to pay after so many dates.
I recall a recent situation where a buddy of mine took this woman out for a date. He was paying. Homegirl ordered 2 dinners, and took one to go, so that her kids would have something to eat….and o ntop of that he didn’t get any after the date.Now, I am not staying that paying for a date should ensure date, especially when you can get it for free. It shouldn’t. Lord know I would NEVER pay for it. However, there is a sense of entitlement when it comes to many women.. entitlement that the more you spend the better the chance is for asecond date. So it is not just entitlement for the man to pay for the date,but for a pricey date – regardless (not “irregardless”… cuz that’s just not a real word irregardless of how many folks us it) of your financial status. Doe they even consider the quality of the date?