What’s going on today people? I hope everyone is living life to the fullest, living the dream and not dreaming the life. Now today I have run into a bit of a situation that has caused me a great sense of agitation. I’m sure y’all thinking long and hard about what I could be agitated with, but I promise you it’s something that will have you talking at the water cooler tomorrow. A few days ago I heard a woman tell her girl” He’s cute, all I have to do is train him and mold him the way I like and he’ll be perfect”.
First and foremost ladies men aren’t your children. The bible verse that says “train up a child in the way he should go and he will not depart from it” is not referring to women and their significant others. I’m sure y’all wish it was at times though. I know all women don’t think this way but where did this idea come from that women need to train their men? I’m sure ladies there are some things that you want out of a relationship, but “training” is not the route. All you’re going to get is resentment, frustration, and a lot of where did I go wrong?
Training for some women is just another way for them to escape the communication area of the relationship. Instead of the woman trying to read up on the latest Pets Mart Kennel training manual she should put a little more effort in learning her man. If she does take the time to learn more about her man she would understand right then in there that here man either does or does not have the qualities she looking for in the opposite sex. Yeah I know he’s the physical specimen you’re looking for sweetheart, but it’s obvious you’re wasting your time trying to change a man. Y’all do know men aren’t clocks right? You will never change a man. If you think you have I’m pretty sure you’re not 100% happy because all he does is submit to you rather than being that supportive mainstay that you crave in a relationship.
Far too many times I have heard the phrase “I’m going to train/mold/ or change him into what I want”. Ladies the minute that comes out of your mouth you need fast forward to man #2 because the first guy is just Mr. Right Now, baby girl you’re settling and if you can’t see that you need to be by yourself for a while. I don’t understand why some women feel they have to teach a male to be a man. The moment you see little buddy isn’t up to par chunk that boy the deuces because an exciting relationship is somewhere over in aisle 2 while you haven’t even made it into the store because you’re babying a grown man.
Ladies please drop the training.molding, and /or changing a mam from your repertoire. It doesn’t work for you in the long run and its not going to benefit the relationship. There is definitely a difference between personal growth and changing. There is nothing wrong with a woman or man introducing their significant other to some of their likes, but having a plan to change that person from the core to fit your prototype is manipulative and pointless.
THINK TANK Signing off until next time…..
I totally agree with this. A man or any person for that matter changes when they feel they need to change. A lot of women and men included need to realize this asap. If you were “training” someone that mean you have settled for less than.