Is It Time For Sex Yet?

What’s goodie my people. I hope everything is peachy keen for all of you all. Today I want to throw a few spices on your mental palettes if  I may for a second or two. Hopefully when I’m done you’ll be burning to say a lot on the topic at hand, well maybe not burning that sounds so STD’ ish. But let’s just say it should spark a lot of debate amongst you and your friends. Well enough with the general eds, I obviously had a random thought or encounter this week so I will divulge a bit with you folks.

Last week I happened to hear the end of a radio segment question which was “How long should men  wait  for sex in a relationship? or how long should women wait before they have sex in a relationship ?” Why they opened that can of ignorance I surely do not know, but since its opened let’s just take a look inside. It’s clear to me that everyone has a different idea or philosophy on this, but I’m sure that the majority of us have standards, at least I hope y’all do. Don’t try to jump my bones yet lil mama you dont  even know my last name yet, and hell I didn’t even get your Fico score your credit might be shot.

There’s been a lot of people who give dates on when the panties should be dropped, or when the D should be delivered. I have heard the 3month rule, 1 month rule, hell I think I recall a few individuals taking a 2week rule into the bedroom. It honestly depends on the person, but I think there is a lot more pressure on women to make that decision a lot quicker than their male counterparts.

Most guys realistically want to do a jump n jack flash into the sack. But what does that really accomplish with a woman? We definitely know that women are sticklers for their emotional ties so why create instability with a dose of confusion. A lot of women will claim that they’re able to have a sexual relationship with a man without catching emotional attachment but let’s be honest thats far from the truth.

Men want instant gratification when it comes to pleasure amongst other things as well. But let it be known men understand the science of the man/woman relationship. Men want that woman that treats her body like a precious gem, even though they fail to show it on an outward level. There is a lot of times when men and woman try to play the sex card as though its an equalizer for both genders. Hell we all know that smell, yep straight bull shit, get a good whiff of it. Women can not do the same as men when it comes to sex.

However, I do believe that they should be able to be sexually free, but the masses would never agree with that idea. Women have all the power when it comes to sex, whether they want to believe it or not. Men can only do what they are allowed to do. So if women feel that they want to wait 24 hours or until marriage they posses that control. You never hear a man talking with his guys “so when you gone give her a sample?” That sounds RE-TAR-DED, If I heard a group a guys talking like that I will definitely be getting my 100yard dash on and ladies I would advise y’all to proceed with caution, It’s  a Clear and Present Danger, I’m telling you,them brothers are on that DL, y’all know… that don’t ask don’t tell bull shit.. ya better watch out.

Women have the power and control in the sex department. Whenever they decide they want to take that step that’s when it will go that direction. I honestly don’t think there is a standard time of how long a man should wait or how long a woman should wait before she gives up her body. Hence, its her damn body lol. If  a guy isn’t willing to wait, he can move on to the next one. There’s no need  Ms.lady for you to get upset, actually you should be happy because he wasn’t any good from jump street.

Just something I’ve been marinating on, feel free to drop a line or two

THINK TANK Signing OFF…………..

WHY WOULD I SIGN UP FOR THAT?

What’s good family?!?! I know that all is well for everyone, I’ll just claim that.  There has definitely been some neglect on my behalf but I’m back to give y’all what is needed to quench your mental thirst. The last time I spoke to y’all we touched on Chivalry and how It was pretty much on life support, so i wanted to piggy back off that and put a little spin to it. Basically I had a few conversations since then that jerked me a little bit. These conversations were pretty much based on men being the sole provider for their families and a couple of women’s perspective on the husband’s role in a union.Yeah I’m bringing the heat like two slaves in August , in New Orleans fighting over Cayenne Pepper  pops in a mini cooper with no A/C with the windows rolled up. I know you all are thinking Youngcels you aren’t even married, but you all should know me by now, I will not cut off my nose to spite my face. If I hear something and have something to say about it the gums will be bumping like Jackie Chan in the trunk.

I had a long conversation with a close friend of mine who happens to be a woman and she dropped a bomb on me that just blew up in my face. She believed that when she got married her husbands’ salary would be used in its entirety to support the entire house. For those who need laments terms, the brotha’ will have to pay all the bills and just slave to the job. Thus, by the husband paying all creditors, her funds would be used to shop and buy things for her self -gratification. Her perspective was ass backwards to me, what type of marriage is that? come on married folks out there divulge please….

But at any rate family y’all know I came at her head, I mean honestly what Disneyland fairytale does she think she’s living in? Prince Charming ain’t quite make it to this time period. However, she proceeds to tell me that it’s not fairytale and that her husband will have a high paying  career. Hold on babe, TV timeout, aaaannnnddd CUT!!!. I know you trying to claim it in existence  in all, but I don’t care if your husband is a neurosurgeon. The more money you make the more expensive the lifestyle you want to lead and no one person’s salary is going to support that lifestyle. Now there are of course exceptions to the rules with professional athletes, celebrities, and successful businessmen. But we’re not including them right now.

So this whole time I’m trying to understand her supportive arguments. She comes up with the typical woman answer. “Well the man is supposed to take care of everything, that’s why he’s called the man of the house”. Ohhh really now?  I do believe the man does whatever to make sure family is taken care of. But I thought marriage meant help mate .I don’t think marriage was built for one person to carry the entire load. Maybe I skipped that verse in the Bible, y’all saved folk know the good word I’m talking about, enlighten me.

I pushed this same conversation on another female friend to see how she would answer and she gave me the same illogical answer. “Well if you call yourself a man in a marriage you’re supposed to pay all the BIG bills.  I will pay some small bills like the cable.” Girl, you do know cable ain’t a necessity right? Oh ok  because I ‘m just making sure. I mean seriously what man is going to sign up to take these type of hits? I see now why high percentages of women are eternally single. It’s not that they can’t get a husband, men just aren’t volunteering to be the only person in the pressure seat. Every woman wants that double standard to go away when its for their benefit but hide behind it when the spotlight of accountability is shining on them.

Men don’t think this means you don’t have to do whatever is necessary to make sure your family has what they need to survive. But women that doesn’t mean just because you have a husband you sit idly and let him get beat down by life’s financial gauntlet because you’ve been taught that’s the man’s job. Aww no babe it’s a union, which means we are one body with two interchangeable parts. Maybe I’m just thinking wrong. Let me know something.

THINK TANK Signing off………..